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I’m sure you’ve given what you think is surefire and heartfelt advice to someone, but have you ever heeded your own advice? I tell ya, It is so much easier to give advice to other people. Now, I’ve been known to dish out what I consider solid advice; but the realization that I need to be listening to my own words has never crossed my mind.
As Mike likes to say, “You talk a good game, but do you ever take this advice yourself?” Advice flows off the lips so freely. We all know it. Everything we say seems so obvious. “Well duh, if you’re getting a bad vibe in that situation you should run, not walk.” “If you hate your job that much you should update your resume and look for a new one.” “If I were you I would not train so hard, you’ll probably get better results.”
In life, I would say we are all experts at telling other people what they need or should do. If I got paid in amounts of advice given, I’d be rich. Damn, wouldn’t that be nice.
Like a lot of people in this crazy day and age, I’ve been at a crossroads at many things…for months, over a year even. I have a lot of things “in the works”. I’m sure you’re aware because you are either reading or listening to two of those things. And trust me, I have a lot of other things I’m dabbling in and getting nowhere.
My issue is that I’ve been trying to figure out how to do all of these things and how they should all fit together, alone. I’m sure by now you are well aware that I hate paying for things I can do or figure out myself; so let’s just say that I’ve been reading and listening and hunt and pecking my way through everything.
I tell you friends, you can only get so far doing it this way. At some point you just need some help. Someone to tell you that you are doing a good job or that you’re on the right path. That you need to keep going. OR someone to say, “Hey girl, you’re spinning your wheels. Do it this way. You’ll save a ton of time.”
The opportunity to take a podcasting class from a very successful podcast host happened. UHH. But it costs money. Let me say, podcasting is easy, but building a podcast is hard. Very hard. Very, very hard. And I’ve spent many a day and night trying to figure this thing out. And I’m losing. I’m losing precious minutes/hours and I’m losing non-gray hair under the fake blonde.
Money is involved so you know I have been in constant decision turmoil about this class. Should I, shouldn’t I? I’ve been on the fence, off the fence, on the fence – a million times. To me, signing up for this class was almost like admitting defeat. But what advice would I give someone else in this situation? I’d probably say something like, “It’s okay to need and ask for help.” Like I said, OBVIOUS.
The struggle in my inner-self was between money and time. Which is more important? I’ve heard said many, many times how money is abundant. It is all around and it always returns. But time? Once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. Do I want to be sitting here a year from now in the same spot or do I finally want to allow someone to help me?
I cannot express to you the angst over this decision, but in the end I decided to ask for help. I signed up for the class and it starts next week. And once I made the decision, my heart was lighter, even if my wallet was lighter as well. But not only that, the act of putting myself first in this instance made me feel pretty incredible as well.
So, you didn’t ask, but here’s my advice. Don’t be afraid to admit that you need help. Don’t be afraid to seek out help with WHATEVER it is you need help with. And definitely don’t be afraid to put yourself first at least once in a while. I guarantee I’ve said all of this to others before and then I’ve resisted myself. Well, this time I’m taking my own advice and seeing what will happen. In a year we’ll see if it made a difference.
Meet you back here next September and I’ll report back. Till next week –
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